“Have you ever wanted something really bad and when you get to the point where you can get it, you have to give it up to do the right thing?”
I’ve had this happened to me before and I feel like this happens to a lot of people. We try so hard to achieve a certain goal in our lives to only realize once it’s in our reach that we can achieve it order to “do the right thing.” Though sometimes if the pros of achieving your goal outweigh the cons, I’d say continue reaching for that goal. Just makes that it doesn’t:
Interfere with personal relationships. Such as it won’t cause a close friend or family member to stop associating with you because they feel like you’ve done them wrong and taken an opportunity that should’ve been for them.
Causes a moral/ethical dilemma. Are the means of which you’re trying to achieve your goal unethical or immoral? If so, it’s probably best to take a step back and think over the ways that can you achieve your goal within moral/ethical way. You don’t want to lie or cheat your way to obtain your goals. You want to do it fairly.
Obtaining things that we really want can be tricky if we feel like we have to do the right thing. It’s human nature to want to be greedy and just take what you want for yourself without thinking of the consequences. Though it takes a big person to be able to step back and think about what the consequences of taking what you want can do to others or if it’s morally right. I’d say do what you want if you can handle the consequences of your actions, and if you think its for the best to not obtain what you want, you can do that but just make sure that you’re taking away from yourself because you deserve happiness, too.
Thank you for asking for advice and I hope this helps! If you feel like it didn’t, you can always come back to me and ask more questions that I can work with to give you better advice.
Have a lovely day!